How to Masturbate With Your Fingers

Part 2 - Masturbation Techniques Without a Sex Toy

Now you you've read part one to our masturbation guide, you know how to turn yourself on, and you've spent time getting to know your vulva, here are some simple techniques you can use for self pleasure.

*Special Tip*: You can edit these techniques to fit your preference, by altering the speed, pressure and rhythm of the movement. Diversity is also key, so try each technique out but then see how it feels to mix the movements up, spend a few minutes doing one motion and switch it to another. Your hand will eventually feel very natural and you will create your own sensations and techniques.

Humping or Grinding

You can orgasm without touching yourself or even taking your clothes off. The nerves of the clitoris spread around your vulva and up to the pubic mound, so putting pressure on this area is a great way to start masturbating.

You can use a pillow, a soft toy, or something like the edge of the bed or sofa. Rubbing up and down it, with a harder or larger part of the object, directed at your clitoris will start to feel really good. You can control the speed, pressure and position as you like.

I love this technique as it's easy to do, it's great for anyone who feels direct touch to the clitoris or vulva is too sensitive, or feels pain or discomfort touching their body directly. I also love to combine it with the other moves for extra sensation and it can replicate some of the feeling you get from having sex with another person.

Squeeze Thighs

Some people can masturbate and have a full orgasm just from squeezing their thighs together, so don't underestimate the power of your thighs!

Start by sitting up right in a chair, cross your legs, squeeze them together and start moving your hips forward and back. You can get into a nice rhythm by squeezing then releasing as your pelvis moves forward. This pressure will feel great on your clitoral network. A thicker material on your legs can also add to this experience, try jeans or some thick leggings.

You can increase the sensation and pleasure of this technique by lying down and using a pillow or soft toy, like the last technique. This combination can create serious pleasure and should not be underestimated as a masturbation method.

Circling the Clitoris

Once you're familiar with the external forms of masturbation, you can start to get to know the clitoris. It might be a little difficult to know exactly where to touch at first, but you will quickly feel that there is an extra sensitive area on the upper part of your vulva.

Using your middle or index finger and a little lubricant, if you have it, find your clitoris and start to lightly circle it. This is a great way to begin to increase the blood flow to this area and 'awaken' your sexual organs.

It might take a while to feel something pleasurable, especially if you're not mentally aroused yet, so be patient and don't expect orgasms immediately, it just takes some time.

Once you are starting to feel aroused, you might start to feel your clitoris become harder and larger, this is because the blood is flowing to it.

You can speed this motion up, slow it down, do larger or smaller circles and you can add a fast tapping motion to change up the feeling. Diversity of movement helps increase pleasure.

Scrolling the Vulva

Once you're comfortable with circling and tapping your vulva, from this position, move your finger down the middle of your labia. Imagine you're scrolling using a trackpad on your laptop. Use that rhythmic motion to trace the inner labia all the way down to the entrance of your vagina, then come back up and circle your clitoris again. Think of this like teasing your vagina. You're almost going in, but just as you're about to, you pull away. This will build a little excitement and increase the sensation even more.

You can change up the feeling by introducing a second or even third finger, using one finger down the middle of the labia and the other one or two on each labia.

After some time of doing this, your vulva may start to produce lubricant from the upper vaginal wall, between your inner labia. You can use this lubricant to increase the pleasure even more, by moving your finger through it and bringing it up to the clitoris and circling and tapping it more.

'Come Here' Move

If you're feeling very aroused, it might be time to introduce some light vaginal stimulation.

If it's the first time inserting a finger inside your vagina, don't worry, as long as you're relaxed and you've warmed your body up with clitoral and vulva stimulation, your body will (in most cases) be ready for insertion. This is a great time to use lubricant if you weren't before, or use your natural lubricant if you're already wet.

The vagina is designed so that when your body relaxes and sends a signal to the brain that you're sexually aroused, it helps to open up and expand the vagina. It may feel a little tight but it shouldn't be painful. If you begin to touch yourself and you feel burning or pain, don't push further, it may be a medical condition such as vaginismus, so it's good to see a doctor or gynaecologist. You can read more about vaginismus here.

If you're feeling good, you can use your fingers to curl up into a motion like you're asking someone to come to you. This curled position means you can reach the g-zone inside the vagina easier as it is located on the upper wall of the vagina.

Slowly insert one finger, making sure you feel good, and you can begin to lightly move the finger in and out of the vagina, making sure to come up to the clitoris often and be engaging both the vagina and clitoris.

If this feels really good, you can use two fingers for more sensation.

Practice in the Mirror

Getting to know and accept your body and vulva is a great way to become more sexually confident and better at pleasuring yourself. Practicing in front of a mirror might sound strange or awkward at first, but it allows you to see what you're doing, learn more about what feels good (so you can pass that information on to others), and it helps you start to see yourself and your body as something worthy of being sexual. It can also be a huge turn on! This will take time and it's okay if you're not comfortable with it, but it can be an amazing experience.

My Favourite Sex Toy

My favourite method of self pleasure is still with my hand as it feels so intimate, but I love having different sex toys to create variety in my pleasure. My absolute favourite toy right now is a beautiful glass, g-spot dildo and I love it so much, I've added it to my store! Click here to check it out!

Masturbation is Personal, So Do What Feels Good For You!

Masturbation is meant to be fun, so don't take it too seriously. It takes a long time to fully get in touch with your body and it took me around 6 years to learn how to really pleasure myself with my fingers. If you're not there yet, don't worry, just do what feels good. If that's grinding on a pillow, squeezing your thighs together or using a toy, that is absolutely okay! Just keep practicing and be patient.

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