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Giving Can Be Just as Pleasurable As Receiving
Giving a blow job doesn't have to be a chore. Many people enjoy giving oral sex and actually find it very pleasurable. For those of us who don't enjoy giving them, but would like to enjoy them more, thankfully there are some things you and your partner can do to make them more enjoyable for everyone involved!
Before we begin, it's important to note that you do not need to give blow jobs. Being in a relationship with someone with a penis does not require you to give head, and you can always say no. Actually, many people with penises don't enjoy blow jobs and some people just prefer to give and not receive, so don't feel pressured into doing something you don't want to and communicate this to your partner.
Mentally STIMULATE yourself first
Giving a blow job will not be fun if you don't think it will be, so if you really want to give one and personally enjoy it, changing your mindset is a good place to start. Think about how hot it will be to see your partner writhing in pleasure, all because of what you are doing to them. Think about how exciting it can be to be in control of their pleasure, teasing them, playing with them and ultimately giving them an orgasm. Getting yourself in to the head space where you are mentally stimulated by giving will make the experience so much more enjoyable for everyone involved. So start seeing it as less of a chore and more of an act of pleasure.
COMMUNICATION is sexy
A lot of people don't enjoy giving a blow job because they feel like they're not good at it, so get your partner to give you some pointers. Communicating what feels good before hand will put you in a much more confident place to get into it and feel sexy while doing it. This can also happen during and you can ask your partner for some feedback while doing it. It can even be done in a sexy way by asking something like; 'does this feel good when I lick it like this?', and they can help guide you by using their body and words.
HYGIENE is everything
The number one rule of getting a blow job, is take a shower or bath before hand. Dicks get sweaty, it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with the person it's attached to, but no one likes to suck a sweaty dick. Ideally make sure to get your partner to clean under the foreskin properly and it will taste a whole lot better! If you're getting in the mood, why not have a sexy shower to start things off?
TASTE can be improved
If you're averse to the taste or smell of a penis, buying some flavoured lubricant is a fantastic tool! You can use it for so many things but using a flavoured lube or condom really can elevate the experience to be something exciting and playful!
You can get a couple of different flavours to try out, or if you're feeling extra creative, you can use a body safe food, like whipped cream or chocolate sauce! Using foods that are safe in temperature and free from acid/chilli can be an incredibly fun and enjoyable experience, for a low cost! Just make sure to have a proper clean afterwards, especially before inserting the penis into a vagina.
Get into a COMFY position
This may sound obvious, but do it somewhere where you are comfortable sitting, kneeling or lying for 5+ minutes. This is especially important if you have knee problems, so get a super comfy pillow or find a position that feels great for you. Nothing will turn you off more than feeling in pain or like your legs are about to go numb.
REACTION makes all the difference
Getting a positive reaction from your partner is absolutely key to you enjoying the experience. No one likes to give a present and have no response, and it's the same for giving head. You might have to encourage your partner to become more expressive during sex as many men feel uncomfortable or are not used to verbally expressing their pleasure, so make sure to ask your partner to be a little louder and more deliberate in their expressions beforehand.
For anyone with a penis reading, be a little louder please! No one is a mind reader and all your partner wants is to see how much pleasure they are giving you, so relax and let it show.
PRACTICE if you'd like to deep throat
Not everyone likes deep throating, and by no means do you have to deepthroat, but for some, deepthroating can be incredibly hot, although our gag reflex does get in the way sometimes!
You can practice and train your gag reflex to get less sensitive with activities like using a toothbrush to brush your tongue and practicing that regularly, so your reflex gets less and less sensitive. Another tip is to hold your thumb in your fist while deepthroating.
Again - do not feel pressured into deep throating. Only do it if you really want to, not just because your partner wants.
USE your hand or a toy to increase sensation
Your mouth does not have to do all the hard work! Use all the other tools you have which include your hands, feet, breasts, toys and whatever else you can think of! This is especially helpful for people with very large penises, as that can become quite painful on someone's jaw for a long time, so get creative and try out some other techniques!
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Enjoy being in CONTROL
You can really bring out your dominant side during oral sex. You have a lot of control over your partner's pleasure and that can be an incredibly sexy and pleasurable thing for you. You might not be used to being in this position, but it can be a great opportunity to role play and act out some fantasies. Remember to always get consent, continue to communicate and use safe words and be respectful if you're going to play out some BDSM role play.
ANAL and BALL play
The penis is not the only source of pleasure! It's only one of many erogenous zones and some people absolutely love to have their balls sucked, their perineum licked or their anus stimulated. Although not everyone will be into this, those that are usually find this extra stimulation incredibly enjoyable and it does often speed up the climax point, so if you're getting a sore jaw or arm, check out some other areas to stimulate.
DO it together - try the 69 position
If you love giving as much as you love receiving, maybe the 69 position is for you! It can be a tricky position to get right, but if you do, it's worth it!
You don't need to make the ORGASM from a blow job alone.
Lastly, you don't need to go on forever! Just because porn might show someone giving a blow job for 10+ minutes, doesn't mean you do. Our jaw gets sore and we need a break, so don't feel bad for asking for one. You can move on to some other positions or experiences and come back to it later if you're still in the mood! Even just a minute or 2 of head can be a great prequel for other sexual acts like penetration, so don't feel the pressure to make your partner orgasm from a blow job alone.
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